open mind of a beginner, experience of a vet
By · CommentsSo I woke up today and realized I haven’t been as consistent with my blogging as I normally am. It’s partially because I have been busy in a good way and partially because I needed to find my muse so I could come up with something half way interesting that has a nice flow to it. Searching for my muse I turned to my facebook followers. Three people answered me (one is going to require a separate blog post since I don’t have the facts about that one yet) and two suggested something along the same lines.

Now I have a question for you. Are you training to get sore…or are you training to get better? You see many people…especially beginners equate the two as being one in the same. I once said as a facebook status update that successful training involves chasing awesomeness, not soreness and some of the coaches I look up to ended up quoting me (I have arrived
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Not to long ago someone close to me who likes business and stuff had read that crossfit has had a steady climb in popularity according to Google search statistics. Wanting in on the action he decided to go to a local crossfit and did it for a month and when he came over he claimed with a big fat smile on his face that “I have been sore for a month straight.”
Watching him wince as he gets in and out of his truck I said to him “And you think that is a good thing?”
I don’t know maybe it turns out that I’m not all that smart to begin with but I like to think that moving without pain is a good thing…or maybe it’s because my training experience and intuition tells me that soreness isn’t a good thing.
But like I said…a beginner may not know the difference.
Here’s the thing. Beginners come into the training world with hopes and dreams and retain that ability to adapt quickly (since it’s a brand new stimulus) and they have a somewhat uncorrupted mind. Unfortunately with that uncorrupted mind comes the characteristic of being naive which isn’t good in one of the 3 most dishonest industry’s out there (get rich quick, grow your dick and fitness/weight loss).
Every once in awhile I’ll have a coach/personal trainer come my way who wants to get a taste of the way I do thing and the methods to my madness. I ask them to please empty their cup and when they do they are able to move forward. On the same token I can get people who have been corrupted by late night informercials praying on women’s fears of looking like a man if they train to get stronger and I’ll get others who are brand new and are lucky that I got my claws on them first.
When you approach something new…you have to come at it with the mindset of a beginner (because beginners are like a sponge) but with the common sense approach of a veteran. You can see how crazy this can get since that is basically a contradictory statement.
A couple years back I used a bodybuilding approach for strength training and consequently got my ass kicked in a Judo match. Yeah I got stronger but less athletic. I reasoned that I lost it and should just train for looks. Low and behold the kettlebell came my way and I learned the swing from reading Enter the Kettlebell which completely changed my outlook on how to train with form following function and how I explain getting stronger by practice.
Here is how I do it.
Me: If you could press a heavy weight overhead with one hand then you would consider yourself strong right?
Some guy: Yeah.
Me: Now it would make sense that if you took a weight that was challenging but you could press with confidence and did it a bunch of times while staying fresh and did that often…then that weight would no longer be challenging right?
Some guy: Yeah.
Me: Now when that weight becomes easy you move up to another weight that is challenging and do the same thing and eventually that heavy weight will be achievable. That makes sense right?
Some guy: Yeah but you just got better at pressing the weight.
Me: But you yourself said yourself that pressing that weight requires strength.
But what about muscle confusion? What about constant variance of movements? What about no pain no gain? What about dynamic inertia? Well I didn’t achieve a beast bent press by constantly changing the exercise or by working to oblivion. I train to get better…not to get tired.
These are the things that try to cloud and confuse the innocent mind. When you go down the road of strength and physical awesomeness there are many things on the side of the road that might look like gold but are actually just broken glass. Unfortunately it can take experience to determine what is what and which is which. This is where you have to go back on what you have previously learned about life that we call “common sense”. If something makes sense to you you might try it…but rethink it first. I couldn’t believe how on the surface treating training like practice is…but hey, it works.
It can also confuse a beginner’s mindset with the plethora of info that is the internet. Chances are you came upon my blog because you wanted to look into kettlebell training and using them for various purposes. Well lucky you…you found me. Someone who is certified in a system of kettlebell training that is considered the gold standard. Unfortunately people searching for kettlebells might not find someone who knows what they are doing. Like this guy.
Oh wow he fell over…and that’s ok. What a f’n idiot. I am beginning to see a correlation between men who shave their legs and bad training technique.
But you see here is a guy with a bunch of letters and people think he might be respectable. Hell he’s listed on a chiroprator’s site (I count both of them as morons btw.)
Well anyways…keep an open mind but don’t ignore your past experience. Even if you are new to this. Or you could just listen to me:).
Also I started a video log series because writing out these long blog posts takes quite a bit of time. Vlogs don’t take up quite so much. Here is the first episode.
I am a fitness professional residing in Hopatcong, NJ, who is dedicated to making myself and my clients as strong as (or stronger than) they look and to look beyond sexy. I help my clients drop body fat quickly, gain strength quickly and I use kettlebells as my main tool and the RKC system as my main methodology. I am a personal trainer with small group personal training and fitness bootcamps in Morris and Sussex County NJ. This fitness blog is where I have become known as a straight shooter with a unique writing style and I have been known to force companies to take videos down where they teach unsafe and ineffective technique with just a couple written words. It has become an inside joke started by a guy that bends steel bars into bonsai tree shaped decorations with his hands, that I don’t wear shirts but that is mainly because I have built up my physique along the lines of a Greek statue and exhibit it proudly.
Train for strength and the good stuff will follow.
By · CommentsI’m going to keep this one short and sweet. I want you to watch this webisode of DragondoorTV and I guess about half way through you’ll see my colleague RKC Neghar Fonooni.
This post is an expansion of one of my favorite posts which was entitled “Survival of the sexiest/fittest” and in it I had talked about training to get stronger and improving the way you look at the same time and the satisfaction that comes with strength. Neghar walks that fine line between being strong and looking good at the same time. She’s pressed the 24kg kettlebell (which is named the Iron Maiden and is the female equivalent of the beast). She’s put up other feats of strength that impress her facebook friends and you can tell that every time she does it she is beaming with pride. At the same time she’ll post up pictures of herself to promo her business and everyone comments on how great she looks and she looks that way 24/7.
You see when you train for strength certain things happen to your body and your mind. You develop proportioned musculature and you become confident in yourself which nobody can take from you and in that process somehow you meet your original goals. I’ve seen it time and time again with my clients. They hire me to lose fat…which they do but they get stronger in the process and that is the one that brings out the most satisfaction in them.
Train to be strong and conditioned and you will have the body of your dreams. That is universal for both sexes.
I am a fitness professional residing in Hopatcong, NJ, who is dedicated to making myself and my clients as strong as (or stronger than) they look and to look beyond sexy. I help my clients drop body fat quickly, gain strength quickly and I use kettlebells as my main tool and the RKC system as my main methodology. I am a personal trainer with small group personal training and fitness bootcamps in Morris and Sussex County NJ. This fitness blog is where I have become known as a straight shooter with a unique writing style and I have been known to force companies to take videos down where they teach unsafe and ineffective technique with just a couple written words. It has become an inside joke started by a guy that bends steel bars into bonsai tree shaped decorations with his hands, that I don’t wear shirts but that is mainly because I have built up my physique along the lines of a Greek statue and exhibit it proudly.
So I noticed a funny thing over the weekend. In my email inbox I had received a subject line called “how to respond when she says “buy me a drink”‘. Now I already know what I would say to a girl if she told me to buy her a drink. I would say “I don’t think my wife would like that none too much.” and point to my ring but curiosity about what this “dating guru” thinks I should say got the better of me and I put my email address in that email capture to learn the “secrets” of the video.
Well I guess this dating guru was in the middle of launching a product called the “Tao of Badass” and in it he claimed that “any guy can have any girl” if they follow his tips which I guess were supposed to make you appear to be a strong and confident guy. Well it’s funny because as I’m listening to this spiel I started to figure out why this guy seemed so familiar. Well I guess I take a slight issue with his case that “any guy can have any girl” and “girls are waiting for the next better thing” and would likely leave me and that sort of thing.
Want to know why I take issue with it?
Because he tried to date my girl. Obviously not any guy can have any girl because he tried to date her and failed. If my wife was looking for the better thing I guess he wasn’t “it”. And if confidence was the secret…then that guy couldn’t fake what I naturally had.
It’s kind of a funny thing actually. See you could go ahead and invest in tao of badass and maybe learn some dating tips to make you appear confident….or you can start training, getting stronger, looking good and actually become more confident….and you won’t have to fake it either. To quote Chris Jericho in his song With the Fire “I never had to fake it. It’s who I am”
You see even beyond the whole psycho babble about being confident and looking good there is actually more going on then just about anybody realizes. There are pheromones that a lot of people know about and has been exploited for years. That’s a sense of scent but there is more to it then that. Pavel has eluded to something called the “presence of power” in his book Beyond Bodybuilding
“You cannot fake that look…Get the power and you will have the look, guaranteed.” Pavel Tsatsouline
Well once again he’s right. The look isn’t just in the muscles either. A scientific study showed people were able to determine which dudes were strong and which were sissies by photos of their face alone and another study that shows that strength can be determined by voice alone. Apparently there is something that happens beyond getting buff that lets girls know that you are strong enough to protect them and sends a signal out to guys that says “Don’t f’ with me.” Like I said…faking it will only get you so far.
A blackbelt/bouncer friend of mine once said that “knowing is enough”. It’s always the ones that are insecure about themselves that end up starting fights and it’s partially because everyone is perceived as a threat. It’s the people with the Napoleon complex that are constantly trying to throw down and it’s become a joke that the guys with the nice cars are compensating for small genitals (note…I drive a 94 Corolla…nuff said)

I was just listening to a podcast from the makers of the Adonis Effect and Venus Index about how training changes your perspective. Indeed it does. I wouldn’t say it gives you a feeling of superiority but it definitely makes you look at the world different. It doesn’t make you vein…it makes you proud and rightfully so because you have accomplished something. It doesn’t make women wonder if they look fat….it makes them know that they look damn good. When you know these things you project confidence and that will make a person more irresistible then any pick up line can…even if it is based in psychology. Think about it…if you had a body that looked like a Greek statue and the strength and athleticism that impresses fear and admiration, do you think someone is going to steal your girl from you with a couple lines that make her think different? Maybe that would work on someone else’s girl..but not yours. In fact I just got an idea for a book.
Now as for the one that tried to pick up on the girl that I now call my loving wife…well his claim that any guy can have any girl was proved wrong because he couldn’t have mine. When I had heard that he was trying to pick up on my wife I thought to myself “Maybe I should show this guy that I am not someone you want to mess with.” but when I looked at him I decided he didn’t present a credible threat. I didn’t say anything nor did I need to. She wasn’t about to drop me for him…and it’s a good thing because that was the week I proposed to her (nothing says “it’s a good idea to let me annoy you for the rest of your life” like a secluded Caribbean beach and a diamond ring in my pocket).
Get strong, look good, be well conditioned and that will bring about a confidence that doesn’t need to be advertised to be understood.
I am a fitness professional residing in Hopatcong, NJ, who is dedicated to making myself and my clients as strong as (or stronger than) they look and to look beyond sexy. I help my clients drop body fat quickly, gain strength quickly and I use kettlebells as my main tool and the RKC system as my main methodology. I am a personal trainer with small group personal training and fitness bootcamps in Morris and Sussex County NJ. This fitness blog is where I have become known as a straight shooter with a unique writing style and I have been known to force companies to take videos down where they teach unsafe and ineffective technique with just a couple written words. It has become an inside joke started by a guy that bends steel bars into bonsai tree shaped decorations with his hands, that I don’t wear shirts but that is mainly because I have built up my physique along the lines of a Greek statue and exhibit it proudly.
These past couple weeks have been busy with changing the location of my NJ Kettlebell Fitness Bootcamps from Parsippany to Pinebrook, dealing the with the death of my kitty as well as trying to continually improve both my fitness, education and results for my clients. Well last week one of my clients for the first time was able to stack press 80lbs over his head with one hand. For those that don’t know, a stacked press is one where you have two kettlebells balanced on top of each other and you press them overhead in one hand. This is more difficult to perform then a standard military press since is shifts the center of gravity upwards but is a great way to bust through a plateau in the press. I used it on another one of my clients and as I always enjoy doing she ended up setting a personal record just like another did last week.
Now it’s kind of a funny thing that happened because as she did this and she attributes part of this the music that was being played I took a snap shot of my screen and saved it because I think this could benefit you too and as my mind tends to have a zillion things happen at once I noticed a parallel between the lyrics of the song and what we do.
The Metallica song Eye of the beholder came on and this particular set of lyrics can describe how best to overhead press.
Doesn’t Matter What You See
Or into it What You Read
You Can Do it Your Own Way
If It’s Done Just How I Say
You’ve probably seen fitness models posing for certain exercises in books and have probably tried to copy them. This isn’t the best thing for you to do. Fitness models for one thing are often unfamiliar with the exercises and will sacrifice form for the sake of getting a flattering camera angle. Also they are forced to hold certain poses and some are just plain easier to hold then others…and even if what they are doing is in fact correct for them it doesn’t mean it is necessarily correct for you.
You see everyone is built somewhat different and we are all going to have different pressing paths. My pressing path isn’t going to look exactly like yours and yours isn’t going to look exactly like mine. The main points that you have to get is an appropriate level of tension, knees locked, glutes squeezed tight, activating the lat, forearm vertical, arm will travel somewhat out and up at the same time. How much out and how much up is the main thing that changes.
One way you can figure out what your optimal pressing path is to experiment with a variety of arm positions and the one that you find easiest to activate the lat is probably going to be your optimal groove. Activation of the lat can make the difference between a powerful press and something that injures your shoulder. Well as for her press…here was the result.

On the same note another one of my clients last week set a personal record in the overhead press with his own slightly different groove. This one didn’t have any music because we were outdoors when doing this training but hey the results still ended up the same. Here is his result.

So figure out your optimal pressing groove and practice it a lot and you can have a halfway decent press too. You don’t even need to own heavy kettlebells to have a big press if you practice the stacked press. Don’t constantly change the exercises (that constant variance is just another word for muscle confusion.) Get good at exercises that have a high carry over to other things rather then constantly changing things and you will have that functional strength that it seems every fitness bootcamp promises.
I am a fitness professional residing in Hopatcong, NJ, who is dedicated to making myself and my clients as strong as (or stronger than) they look and to look beyond sexy. I help my clients drop body fat quickly, gain strength quickly and I use kettlebells as my main tool and the RKC system as my main methodology. I am a personal trainer with small group personal training and “fitness bootcamps” in Morris and Sussex County NJ. This fitness blog is where I have become known as a straight shooter with a unique writing style and I have been known to force companies to take videos down where they teach unsafe and ineffective technique with just a couple written words. It has become an inside joke started by a guy that bends steel bars into bonsai tree shaped decorations with his hands, that I don’t wear shirts but that is mainly because I have built up my physique along the lines of a Greek statue and exhibit it proudly.
Rest in Peace Cookie
By · CommentsYou’ve probably noticed I haven’t been so talkative online on my facebook or on my blog. The reason for this is because a little less then 2 weeks ago on Easter Sunday I lost something very close to me. My cat Cookie.

Cookie was a wonderful cat that I raised from a kitten. When we first picked him up from that God forsaken place that was raising him he was filthy. First thing we did when we got home was give him a nice warm shower in the kitchen sink because the place he came from must have had him in his own filth. As he was growing up he liked to drink from the faucet and we think it was because he equated water going over his head with a loving home.
As he was growing up he would always get into some sort of shenanigans whether it was getting stuck behind my mom’s organ pedal, getting trapped in the linen closet or finding his way into a hole that was above the fridge where he could walk out over pretty much the entire first floor of my parents’ house. Some of his favorite games that he would play with us were stalking us as we came up the stairs, hiding in the end of a couch castle that I would make for him and when you stuck your face in there to look at him he would charge at you (which would guarantee to give you startle.), and of course chasing string, lasers, rolls of tape that came whizzing by and that sort of thing.
He used to find strategic places of sleeping so you couldn’t help but pet him or cuddle up with him as we would walk by. Whenever he was asleep and you pet him he would curl up even tighter to show you how much he enjoyed being pet. He would also experiment with different poses to see which one was cutest (my favorite was when he would cover his eyes with his paws) to tempt you into petting him.
We would always leave our door open so that he could come and go as he pleases and if you were the lucky one he chose to cuddle with that night you could always tell when he fell asleep because he would stop purring and start snoring.
No matter how comfy and enjoyable I made his life I am still very sad that he has passed. Even now as I write this 2 weeks later I am wellling up with tears and I miss him very very much. Rest in peace Cookie. I love you and miss you a lot. You were such a good cat.
If you have a beloved pet…scratch them behind the ear for me. It is something I will never be able to do to Cookie again which makes me incredibly sad.
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together….
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Eric Moss
















